“Don’t forget the little things,” my husband said, as we talked about what advice he wanted to share this week. It seems so trivial, even cliche. But it’s some of the best advice we could all use to remember a little more often.
Raising children is hard. We can get so wrapped up in what we think is right. And frustration over little nuances that really don’t make a difference at all can consume us more often than they should. We find ourselves shouting, “stop that” or, “don’t do that” or more commonly, “NO!” And what for? Because our kids are playing a little too rough, or singing a little too loud?
In reality, our children are often not the problem, we are. We are too tired. Too overwhelmed. Too busy. Too burnt out.
What are we forgetting in all this? We are forgetting to enjoy the little things. Take those moments, big and small, even tiny, and find something to treasure. Remember to let go of the things that may frustrate, but are really not bad at all. They are just kids, living life, enjoying all the small things. And so should we.
How many moms out there, stay-at-home or working, skip a shower here and there because of their kids? Don’t be afraid to raise your hand, because you are not alone!
As moms we tend to put ourselves on the back burner. And many times, this means sacrificing things like a daily shower, because that extra ten minutes of sleep, or the forgotten homework, or the screaming baby, took us away from the time that was supposed to be for a shower. That’s not even mentioning the showers skipped because of the lack of privacy.
Ever set your alarm so you could shower in peace, only to have your kids wake up BEFORE your alarm? Ever skip your shower because it otherwise means you have an audience, or better yet an entourage in the shower with you? Ever think the weekend means your hubby will know to watch the kids so you can shower alone, but don’t tell him, and discover he can’t read your mind when it doesn’t happen?
Mama! Stop! You need a shower so you don’t look like a Zombie, or a hot mess! Get in that shower. Even if you have an audience. Even if you are tripping over bath toys and children. You will feel so much better if you are showered and clean. And you will look and smell better too!
P.S. – This weekend, TELL your husband (yes, out loud so he hears you) that you would like a day to shower in peace. Alone. Heck, make it a Saturday routine! You got this Mama!
Let’s talk calendars this Sunday. It may seem minuscule, but the act of putting your weekly plans on a calendar can really create organization for your family.
We have two calendars we rely on to help us stay organized, and most importantly, keep me and my husband on the same page. We have a paper calendar on our fridge, and an electronic calendar we both see on our phones.
These calendars get updated as plans come up, but we also talk about important events weekly with each other before the day they occur. This really helps to eliminate last minute stressors from poor coordination and keeps us happier with one another.
If you are looking for a way to streamline communication and clearly coordinate your family’s weekly schedules, I highly recommend a family calendar. The family calendar is key! I also have my own personal and work calendar, but events only makes it on the family calendar if they effect more than me.
If you have a family calendar, but communication is lacking, take Sundays to discuss the events coming up that week. That way the entire family can be prepared and successful in the coming week.
Does this quarantine have you singing the blues? I know it does me. Question is, what are you doing about it?
When anxiety and depression kick in, especially over an isolated incident we don’t have control over, one of the best things we can do is be active. Don’t take to the couch, or chair, or bed. Simply get up and move. It’s doesn’t have to be much to be effective. But the act of movement and exercise will help you to have a sense of control and will help relieve stress.
As for the kids, well they are feeling the same stresses you are, they just can’t communicate it well. Have them get up and be active with you. Do something fun, like a Saturday living room dance party.
This Saturday, remind yourself that you can control your actions, even when you can’t control being stuck at home, or the current state of the world. You can choose one thing active every day. And today, Saturday, is a good day to start!
Friday Night Movie Night is an ongoing tradition in our household. While it may not be every Friday we get to hold this tradition, we try to make it special when we do.
The title, Friday Night Movie Night, says it all! After play is done and it’s time to wind down, we cuddle up in our jammies and all watch a movie. Our goal is to try to watch something new, but if kid friendly doesn’t permit, we are always happy to watch one of the family favorites. Anyone know how many times we have seen Hotel Transylvania? Neither do we! But the kids love it, so we watch it.
Having this fun tradition give the kids, and secretly the parents, something to look forward to and to mark the end of a long week. Even in our current state of COVID-19 Stay Home Stay Healthy orders we hold this tradition, because we are finishing up my work week and our oldest kiddo’s virtual school week.
If your family likes movies, and a cozy night in, a tradition like this can help you to slow down and re-center your family. Bring the excitement: talk about it in the coming days, and involve your kids in the movie choosing process. Soon your kids will be asking if its Friday Night Movie Night.
There has been a lot of discussion around the practice of meditation the last few years. The growing interest of this practice has not gone unnoticed, even by those who are hesitant.
I remember the first time I truly thought of meditation as something anyone could do, and not just Buddhist Munks (yes, I did believe that). It was when I watched Eat, Pray, Love for the first time. And when I watched Julia Roberts’ character learn to let go and just be in the present, I found myself thinking there was NO WAY this could be an achievable thing for me. I was wrong!
The practice of meditation doesn’t have to be grand. It doesn’t have to take up a lot of time. There are no special clothes or poses required. I try to do a single, one-minute, meditation a day. I focus on my breathing and re-center myself. My Apple Watch even has a one-minute breathing function to guide me through the process. And there are so many quick educational videos about one minute meditation on YouTube.
If you’ve resisted trying this not-so-new practice, I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone. This Wednesday, learn about meditation, then try a brief, one-minute meditation session. The practice will calm anxiety, lower your heart rate and blood pressure, and leave you feeling relaxed almost instantly! Best of all, with all these benefits you are sure to be the calm in the storm of family chaos.
Photo credit: Meditation Photo from TODAY
Affirmations are words of emotional support and uplifting statements. For example, You are a good parent, is an affirmation that reminds us we are doing a good job at this parenting thing, despite hard days.
Affirmations can be generic or specific. You can buy affirmations, borrow them from the internet, or make your own. You can buy daily calendars with affirmations on them. You can have an affirmation that you repeat to yourself daily.
However you choose to gather and give yourself affirmations, is up to you. But practicing daily affirmations can be a big motivation. I suggest posting them in places you see, so when you feel unmotivated or frustrated, they are there to remind you of who you are, what you want to accomplish, and what you are capable of.
Wednesday’s are when we may think we are half way through the week with nothing done. This can make us feel as though we failed the week. We should just give up until next week, then try again. No! Start now! There is no better time than NOW! I recommend affirmations for this moment. Right now!
Today I recommend finding an affirmation, or multiple, that are perfect for your goals. You can do this! It is not too late to obtain your goals for this week.
In Washington State we are currently in the middle of a Stay At Home order due to COVID-19. What that means for our family is that all five of us are home all the time. My husband is not able to work from home, but my job has become an at home job that is taking all my time. And my husband, well, he’s become a stay-at-home dad caring for our children 24-7. For many families there is some form of this scenario at this time, and because of this my husband wants to tell dads to take some time.
It’s okay to take time for yourself at different times throughout the day. It’s imperative for keeping your sanity and for giving your children and family the compassion and support they need. Just like moms, dads need to take care of themselves before they can give the best care to everyone else.
So this Tuesday, dads, choose to do one thing. At least one thing. For yourself. This doesn’t mean weakness, this actually means being strong enough to say you are important, and some daddy self-care is imperative.
I have plenty of beauty tips to share with you, but the first is the most basic and most important. You NEED adequate water consumption in your life if you want anything else you do to work. Those lotions and eye creams that hydrate? Nope. They won’t be of any value without first hydrating from within.
The Institute of Medicine recommends men drink at least 101 ounces (13 – 8oz cups) of water a day. And for women, at least 74 ounces (9 – 8 oz cups) of water a day. That’s a lot of water! And if you are active, it’s good to add more.
Start your day with a glass or two of water, to get you going and on your way to reaching your water goals. Yes, BEFORE the coffee (which is a diuretic – something that pulls water from your body).
If your skin is quite dry and itchy…
If you feel bloated and swollen…
If you feel fatigued…
If your head is pounding…
It’s all likely due to not drinking enough water. So prioritize your health, and bring back some life to your body. Drink water mama! You got this!
Image credit: Glass of water
Sunday is very important in our household. It is not only the second day of our weekend and dedicated family time, but the day we prepare ourselves for a successful week. Sometimes I can get carried away with my goals for the week. So on Sunday I will be bringing you a simple way to help you setup YOUR success, by bringing a single tip, trick, or tool you can use to help you stay focused and prepare for your success.
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